IWSG Sept. Do you have any self-defeating beliefs about yourself and writing?

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Do you have any self-defeating beliefs about yourself and writing, or things you tell yourself, even though logically, you know they are not true?   

Some of the self-defeating beliefs or negativism that I will tell myself are such things as I’m not good enough, or I’m not smart enough or educated enough.  The whole I’m not  line of things.  Procrastination excuses like I can’t find time, its too complicated, I really need to get that chore done, maybe I am wasting my time it’s just crap, or I don’t know how to do it.  I also tell myself when bouncing back and forth on an idea that I must do more research.   I spend far too much time googling things and reading books for information just so I can begin to write, when I already know enough to write.

Sometimes I get really frustrated and discouraged and spend time telling myself you’re not a real writer, because, because, because…  instead of just writing anyway, despite the feelings.  Your subconscious is a funny thing and you find yourself doing things to sabotage self without realizing why, or sometimes that you are doing it

The fear of losing what you love or changing it, or fear of success and failure, so your never really begin just a bunch of starts and stops.  Or what if I finish and I can’t do again?  This is a merry-go-round I want to get off and stay off.  I need to turn procrastination into action.

In order to do this I will have to recognize those subconscious things that influence my actions so heavily without my conscious permission, stay alert, ready to change or divert them before they take root creating a new behavior in my daily actions.

Battle plan: Recognize, understand, stay alert, stay flexible, change and divert.

That is why developing positive daily habits are so important. It helps program your subconscious.  Fake it till you make it, until its not acting anymore but your way of life.   I’m reading a variety of books about this subject and most recent listed below.  I know this could be considered procrastination, but I have limited myself to just reading at night maybe an hour before bed.

My mindset needs to change making writing my business in a more conscious and action oriented way.  I need to develop stronger business skills and stay always aware and up-to-date with change.  I need to make sure I am always wearing  my business  person and entrepreneur hat, so I can see the dream into reality.  Not one day, but right now.   That is my commitment to self taking affirmative actions for that goal.

Kick procrastination to the curb, while learning better time management.   Accept that with first draft it is okay to write crap first time through.  Label it finish, put it out there and do it again.   Get to doing consistently, Write, Publish, Repeat, like the book.  Have faith through the doubts and the hard knocks.   Write despite life.  Be Brave!

“Either you decide to stay in the shallow end of the pool or:you go out in the ocean.”

Christopher Reeve

I learned to swim when I was three years old.  Shouldn’t be a problem for me, right?

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ONE STEP OR GOAL AT A TIME:   First new small specific goal starting tomorrow: Write 15 minutes or 500 words on writing project or short story, not blog, website or world building, daily.  Discover my best time for this and stick to faithfully, and learn to adapt when it no longer works out due to life.

Putting on my business-entrepreneur hat for good measure.

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Links to books I am reading now:

Business For Authors: How To Be An Author Entrepreneur by Joanna Penn
11 Ways To Make Money Free Video Training from author Joanna Penn–signup here
Prosperity For Writers: A Writer’s Guide to Creating Abundance by Honoree Corder
The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Inner Creative Battles by Steven Pressfield
Get Your First 10,000 Readers Nick Stephenson Note: check out POPUP for Free Video Training. 

FREE 3 WEEK FLASH FICTION COURSE

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Successful Authors That Know The In’s and Out’s and Have Made Writing and the Indie Way Their Business

Some of these authors are also very familiar with traditional publishing having been in this business for many years.

Holly Lisle, Get Her Free Flash Fiction course above

Joanna Penn Free Video Training above

Sean Platt, Dave Wright & Johnny B. Truant  Check out their self-publishing podcast once you enter their site under Smarter Artist.

Dean Wesley Smith & Kristine Kathryn Rusch

Free Read on site-Killing the Sacred Cow of Publishing Dean Wesley Smith

Just to name a few I like to learn from and follow.  There are more, a lot more.  They are proof this can be done and they are willing to tell you how they did it.  The biggest hurdle I believe we all have is our mindset.  The way we think about writing and our own insecurities.

 

 

 

Take Off Your Pants!: Outline Your Books for Faster, Better Writing by Libbie Hawker  This is a great short read that I have really enjoyed!  Available on Amazon.

What You Can Do When The World Is Plotting Against You– Guest post by David Villalva on website Live Write Thrive C. S. Lakin   Another website and author I follow with great tips and info.   I also found myself signing up for her guest poster David Villalva site, whom I found to be entertaining and informative, his website & The Story Heart Blueprint.

I recommend signing up for the free illustrated guide, which adds even more and a visual to the process.   I found this visual presentation re-affirming, presenting  a snap picture that brought concepts together in one place.  It reinforced my own knowledge in a simple approach with impact.

I’m addicted to reading and learning about the craft.  I crave different perspectives that allow me to see concepts I know through others eyes, which brings me better understanding and sometimes the epiphany or two.

 

 

MY OVERALL WRITING GOALS FOR 2015: Rediscover the fun in writing. Write forward not backwards.  Finish my first serious draft for revision or rewrite.  Write several short stories and revamp my website, until I find the right fit.  Try to blog more often, although writing story is my main focus to build my writer’s platform.  Learn as much as I can about marketing and do what I can now, or have it ready to implement, when the time comes.   Put together a collection of poetry and prose.  

I’ve made a good start, but I’m behind, however, 2015 is not in my rear view mirror yet.

“In my rear view mirror

My life is getting clearer

The sunset sighs and slowly disappears.”

~Bon Jovi Lost Highway

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54 comments

  • My biggest self-defeater is “it’s not ready”. And I might be right, but I need to push harder to get them out there to get the feedback to know what will MAKE THEM ready…

  • I think that it is entirely natural for a writer to think that their writing is not good enough. Most writers are readers and have often read a lot and rather diversely. I am one of those, I suspect that many others are as well. Your completed book, do you compare it to the book by Jack Nobody that you gave up ten pages in as it was terrible or do you compare yourself to Voltaire and the ideas of reason, Nietzsche and deep inherent thought systems that you have little control over, or Different, to Tolkien and grand fantasy, Heinlein and towering Sci-fi; we writers always compare ourselves with the best in class.
    We always shall and so will always think that we are not quite good enough. I fully admit there there are few whose towering self confidence will pull them through but I think that they are few and that many who even tell you they are, lie. I suspect had I written “Candide” i would have thought it terrible much as FMA de Voltaire did.
    I always think that we are right to keep on striving to better ourselves. Who was it that said, I may be laying in the gutter but I am gazing up at the stars?

    • I loved that quote. “I may be laying in the gutter but I am gazing up at the stars?” I had to look it up and add it to my quote file. It was Oscar Wilde, Lady Windermere’s Fan. Good pick, it does capture the feeling doesn’t it? faith, hope, imagination
      We should always reach for the stars no matter how deep we are in our own mire. Great comment. Thanks for taking time to stop by and join in.

  • I’m also plagued with doubts and procrastination. I like your idea of making a plan and sticking to it.

    Thanks Juneta!

  • We’re our own worst enemies and usually have a worse opinion of our own writing than anyone else. In my case, that’s because I’m pretty shy and self-effacing, but I’m trying to get better at recognising what I do has some worth. Just got to keep going forward! A regular schedule definitely helps. I hope yours works out.

    • I get that, recognizing and believing in your own worth and creativity. Thank you, so far my schedule has not worked out, but the week is not over yet.

  • Rachel Schieffelbein

    It’s such an easy trap to fall into. I know I’ve had moments where I convince myself that I stink at this, that I might as well quit now. But I like your battle plan! I’ll keep that in mind. 🙂

  • Excellent goals and amazing attitude. Of course you can do this! I wholeheartedly support forcing yourself to write something everyday and move FORWARD. Pretty soon you’ll find it’s not forced at all.

  • Stephen Tremp

    I start and end my day with positive thoughts. Helps get me through the day. A good nap helps too.

  • Yes. So much yes. Of course I feel the same way about pretty much everything you mentioned lol But you’re so right. These daily positive habits are definitely key! Love this post!!!!

    • Thank you. Yes daily habit are KEY. Keeping them going long term is something I need to get better at. Working on it. You go girl. Congrats on your cover reveal.

  • I certainly am guilty of self-defeating thoughts like: it won’t matter if I write something good because I’ll pick something that isn’t marketable, so the agents will pass anyway, or I just don’t have the personality for marketing myself. It’s good to see all the resources you have listed here. I need to check them out.

    • Yes they are great resources. I am always on the watch for more. I love learning about the craft, especially when what learn gives me epiphanies that move me forward to my goals. Hope you find some things that help you grow too. Thanks for stopping by too.

  • We both have goal setting on our minds. I can do it, and so can you. High five. I feel ready to create more, and get serious about it.
    Play off the Page

  • It’s good to have the IWSG to talk these things over. Don’t worry, we all have these doubts. But the good times roll around too!

  • Great post, Juneta. I’m finding that the only real consistency these days is that my goals and routines are steadily changing as I learn more and gain confidence. I’m still setting broad goals though, like finishing the latest edit of Sasha before NaNoWriMo and trying to avoid looking at the calendar instead of sitting down each day and working. The ever-growing reading list, alone, can be daunting!

    • Yes it can, don’t let reading take the place of writing that is another procrastination excuse. I know, because I do it too. Like me, you’ll get there. Hang in and best of luck friend.

  • I love, love, love your battle plan and overall goals! Go, girl, go!!! 🙂

  • Love the hat! And the motto – stay alert and stay flexible. 🙂

  • I think we all have those doubts at some time or other. I’ll admit that sometimes I wonder if I’m wasting my time–and then I get another story idea and delve right in again. It’s important not to let those doubts take over. Great post.

  • There seems to be a theme of developing better habits this months. I have been a total slacker and procrastinator this summer and have been trying to quiet the voices that are telling me I’m not that good of a writer. When I here them I do sit down and write through them, it does work.

  • Yeah, I have all those “I can’ts” and more. I am my own worst critic, and that starts before I put words on the page.

    Thanks for all the craft book links.

  • Fake it until you make it is one of my mottos.

  • You’re not alone in your thoughts. You can’t let it stop you, though. I don’t let it stop me. And I loved Take Off Your Pants. Great book!

  • You go girl! You kick that procrastination. You can definitely do it. If it helps, starting with small goals, like one page a day, usually helps me if things are slow, or if I’m really struggling. I hope you make plenty of progress. Best of luck.

    • Thanks for the encouragement. Procrastination is one the hardest and most insidious ones to combat too. Bugger, likes to sneak up on you, even when you have the best of intentions. Fear likes to hide behind it too. Small goals. Good advice, thank you.

  • Yes! Kick procrastination to the curb! Eat a donut! Oh, right, no donuts. Great post, June. Attitude is everything. But no donuts, right? Damn.

    • @@ What no donuts? ROFL, yup definitely need to kick procrastination to the next STATE, forget the curb. Thank you my friend. Love the donuts comment.

  • It’s really hard for me to write a crummy first draft. I get very hung up on plotting and character stuff that it can be debilitating to my progress. Moving forward to the ending is so hard without going back to constantly edit.

    • Here is what I was told, when voiced similar things. You cannot edit a blank page. If you don’t write something first there can be no book. Its okay to make typos and not edit first time through, because the WRITING of THE BOOK does not actual start, until the REWRITE. I get it. Got the advice, but still have bumps with it too. Best of Luck to you. Thanks for stopping by.

  • I have all those doubts and problems too, a constant merry-go-round of what if… and the thought of another course is always so tempting and I keep telling myself to get my act together and just get on with it!
    So, best of luck and I’m right there hand in hand with you!
    A x

  • It’s soooo easy to doubt. I applaud you for taking charge. Make small goals and don’t beat yourself up if you don’t make them. Adjust and go with the flow. Like Anna said, say the encouraging words to yourself that you would say to others. Think positively. Always! And have Faith. We’re all behind you! Never give up!!

  • Awesome writing goals! I admit I do the negative talk sometimes, but I’ve gotten much better at just pushing forward. Great post! Happy IWSG day. 🙂

  • I tell myself…in moments of weakness…that my unpublished series will never get published. Then I yell at myself for saying that and tell the universe that I take it back. I believe that the vibes we put out can create things for us. So it’s better to be positive.

    • I agree there is something to putting out the positive that brings positive to you. Yes I subscribe to the Laws of Attraction. I have seen it work. Daily, consistent living of it is harder, especially when life stuff happens that is not so positive and you have little control over. Still, I say WE CAN DO THIS AND WE WILL DO THIS!!
      Thanks Chrys.

  • Maybe add, you need to let yourself breathe. Be your own best friend and say the kind words you share with others. You can be a very supporting person and I know it. Thanks for the post 🙂

    Anna from Elements of Writing

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